is being single a bad thing?

恋人がいないことは悪いこと?

女子大生で「彼氏がいない」と言うことは、とても不完全で、奇妙なことだという風潮があるように思うのだけれど、みんなはどう思う?なぜだかよくわからないけれど、世間では恋人がいる人はリア充と呼ばれ、楽しい生活を送り、人生の勝ち組で、いない人は非リアの負け組でダメ人間というように捉えられていると感じます。


In Japan, not having a boyfriend, especially when you're in college or university, is considered a weird thing. What do you think? I don't know why, but people who do have a partner are called "ria jyu," meaning 'fulfilled life.' And, it's considered that they're having an amazing life. They're winners. On the other hand, people who don't have a partner are called "hi ria," meaning not having a fulfilled lifestyle; they're losers. This is what people understand, without realizing it- at least in Japan.





私は生まれてから21年間、1度も誰かと付き合ったことがありません。今まで気になる人がいたこともあるし、街で見かける人をかっこいいと思ってドキドキすることもある。だけど、ちゃんと特定の人に恋愛感情を持ったことがあるか、と言われると自分でもよくわからない。


I've never had a partner before, in my entire 21 years of life. Of course, I've had crushes on a few people; my heartbeat gets faster when I see an attractive person on the street. However, I don't know if I have ever fallen for someone before.