• eli

let's be friends instead

友達でもいいんだよ

Hey everyone! Eli here.

みなさん、こんにちは!エリーです。

It’s been roughly a year since #metoo became a social phenomenon. The movement gave me many chances to learn stuff I had no clue about, such as the dynamics of sexual abuse and consent.

アメリカを皮切りに、様々な国で#metooが社会現象になってからほぼ一年たった。振り返ってみれば、#metooからセクハラや性的合意についていろんなことを学べた気がする

One year later I’m still here thinking about consent, this time from a slightly different perspective. Now that I am in Japan I experience (and listen to experiences) that remind me very well of my social standing as a woman, and a foreign one at that.

一年間たった今も、少し違う視点から、広い意味での性的合意について考えているきっかけになったの。日本に住んでいる今は、周りにいる人々に外国人女性としての立場を意識させてしまうことを経験したり、あるいは友達のその様な経験の語りを耳にしたりすることが多くなった。

Being a non-east asian foreigner in Japan means that you are hypervisible. You are, in a way, constantly sexualized. This can be perceived as both good and bad, depending on the person you are and the situation you’re in. I’ve heard people who were positively surprised by the (sexual) attention they were receiving, who were obviously happy to be popular. But being sexualized has its setbacks. For me, to be honest, it’s mostly a nuisance.

日本に住んでいる非アジア系外国人であること