seeking "pleasurable sex"



Nobody ever told me about “good sex”. Until a few years ago, I thought that I was someone who didn’t get pleasure from sex. Maybe I was just doing it because I was worried that my partner would be disappointed. I wish I knew how I could have sex in a painless, healthy, satisfying, and enjoyable way.


Do you talk with your friends about sex? For myself, I didn’t ever talk about anything sexual with my friends until recently. After I got into grad school, I made new friends that were open to those kinds of topics, and we started to talk about our erogenous zones, favourite positions, and shop for sex toys together.


From learning about feminism, I started to think that it is important for women to be the ones to sexually desire instead of being the subject of sexual desire. I’m still thinking about how to put this into practice.